Dating rules for divorced parents
The first one, which I rarely reference, I consider a mistake.
A mistake I learned a lot from, but a mistake nonetheless.
TRENTON -- The state Supreme Court reversed nearly two decades of law in a landmark decision on Tuesday by setting a new standard when it comes to the relocation of children in divorce cases.
The court ruled in the 2015 case that divorced parents who want to leave New Jersey against the other parent's wishes must prove that the move is in the child's best interests, keeping the focus on the child.
There are plenty of single parents who use their kids to get out of almost every obligation. exercise, dating, taking responsibility for their own actions.
And I have been the dad who apologized for checking his phone when a text dinged while on a date.
I don’t think I will always do this, and there are certain moments when the phone definitely needs to be turned off, but while my kids are still in pre-college school, I’m at least going to make sure there is no emergency. But then there is my response and my boundaries with both my kids and my ex that must be understood and enforced as well. But when the text dings and it is, in fact, one of my kids… Let’s take this from the perspective of a FIRST DATE, rather than a developing relationship.
In a first date you are trying to make an impression.
Divorced dads have some real challenges when entering the world of dating: a more-than-likely sour experience from the divorce and perhaps some negative feelings about women in general; a lack of recent experience in this arena and accompanying nervousness; often a self-esteem problem stemming from the divorce; and children, whether or not you are the custodial parent.
No kids were ever on the planning horizon and I’m grateful that I bypassed that lifetime connection with this woman. With children, you’ve got an entirely different set of circumstances.
When you divorce without children, it is hard, but the process has an end. Sometimes I’d love an escape option, when she’s being dramatic or unreasonable, from my perspective. And in all fairness, our time together was filled with loving attempts at being married with children.
So figuring out when and how to start dating after a divorce can be a real dilemma for a divorced dad.
Many dads take a long time to recover before they are ready to date again; and some are ready within a few weeks or months.